Megan Fleming, PhD, is a clinical psychologist and resident sexpert with Promescent, a sexual pleasure retailer. Cohen, PhD, LMFT is a relationship scientist and marriage and family therapist in New York. 'You want to do something that’s not the same cookie cutter experience that everyone else is having over a meal,' Cohen says. That might be lending your know-how during a pottery workshop, or showing off your navigation skills during a bike ride.Īfter all, the point is to stick out in the pool of potential suitors, right? Just like you might be queuing up all the Hinge hotties, the person on the other side is doing the same. Instead, Cohen recommends planning a date where you can show off your amazing personality.

'If you’re in a noisy, crowded place, you’re not going to be able to have these deep conversations that allow you to suss out whether or not you like this person.' Cohen, PhD, LMFT, relationship scientist and therapist. 'A lot of people suggest just going out for dinner and a drink, although I don’t think that’s really that effective,' says Marisa T.

Raise your (virtual) hand if you’ve been on a dinner date searching for anything- anything-to talk about because you’ve already breezed through your planned points of conversation. Has anyone perfected the art of the first date? Just wondering, because it sure as heck ends up more awkward than not.